• Grace Ehlers

engaged at a young age (pt. 2)

You guys seemed to like my blog, “engaged at a young age”. And since being engaged takes up a big part of my life, I have plenty to say for a part two.

Being engaged really does jolt your relationship into a new phase of love. You get to wake up everyday knowing that the person you are with is the one you will marry. You begin to learn more about each other, and planning your future together becomes more and more of a reality. Your dreams, plans, and hopes for the future begin to collide. It’s no longer just about you but about the two of you.

I think society has distorted marriage positively and negatively. Now, I can’t say for certain, because I am not officially married yet. But it isn’t hard to see how it is both too romanticized and too looked down upon.

I think marriage will be beautiful and amazing, and I am incredibly excited to marry my best friend. God gave us the gift of becoming one flesh for an amazing reason. I know it won’t always be a smooth ride though. I know that living together will bring both fun times and challenges, and arguments will happen. Love is a choice. So, although marriage will be the best, some people have too high of expectations, because of what media and movies portray it as. High expectations lead to disappointment. At the end of the day, you are marrying a human with their own feelings, and they will have their imperfect moments, just like you will.

There’s the other side of it too, where it is negatively portrayed. A personal favorite is that we are “wasting” our young years away by getting married. My fiancé is older, but even he has been questioned as to whether or not he is making the right choice by marrying me.

Ever heard the term “tied down” or “whipped”? These are extremely negative terms. Marriage is sometimes portrayed as being a prisoner to your partner rather than being portrayed as being with someone you love and chose.

How do I feel about these perspectives personally?

I know that Harrison and I will always fight for our love. In the short amount of time we have been together, we have had our off days, and we both have always pushed ahead as a team. Now before I make it sound like we fight a lot, we definitely don’t. We have disagreements here and there, but huge arguments are pretty much nonexistent.

Harrison and I are very alike in some ways and other ways not at all. We agree on the big things, but we still have our own individual personalities and various opinions on smaller things. Early on, we both had to learn how to properly show affection and understanding for each other. From day one, we wanted to be open, honest, and big communicators. Our differences were something to learn about not fight about.

We skipped a lot of the puppy phase. We never tried to pretend to be someone we weren’t. There’s all those sayings about “My love grows for you everyday.” Harrison has taught me that is more than possible. If we do have a little disagreement, we grow stronger and more loving. Our disagreements are healthy and teach us. I won’t pretend we are always perfect at everything, but I am still confident enough to say that we do a good job trying to be.

As for the negative portrayal, HECK NO. We are getting married in the winter. I will still be twenty when I walk down that aisle to be Harrison’s wife forever. I don’t want any part in the party and/or hoe phase. All the fun things I want to experience in my twenties, I want to do with Harrison. I will be so young that there will be no pressure to have kids right away. I will get to enjoy every bit of marriage, and focus on building a solid foundation before having babies for many years. This is exactly what I wanted, and I am more than blessed to be living out my lifetime dream.

I have always wanted to be a housewife / stay-at-home mom, and I am fortunate enough to say that’s where we are headed financially. But even when that becomes my reality, I won’t stop my other passions, like writing. I have been asked what will happen with my writing once I am married, and to be honest, I plan on writing even more. I want to write more blogs and ebooks. Eventually, I would like to publish another book or two.

I have my days where I worry that I will wake up next to my husband, and forget that I ever cared about writing. I don’t know how to explain it or even begin to tell you why that thought creeps into my mind randomly, but I am always honest about my feelings on here. Harrison supports my writing more than anyone else. It would have nothing to do with him, and everything to do with me. But that’s the only thing that scares me. Once in a blue moon, I will wonder if I will throw away my writing days, but other than that, I am not scared one bit.

I know God put me here. I know I am where I am supposed to be. I am with the one I was made to be with. That level of comfort makes it hard to be anything but overjoyed.

I may be young, but I have everything I have ever wanted: my faith, my soon-to-be husband, mine and his supportive and loving family, my published book, my blog, and my ability to be a housewife. What more could I ask for? (Definitely babies, but that can wait hahaha)

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